Last week, I found myself in Photoshop hell.
Again.
Two hours into tweaking a thumbnail that still looked mediocre, I was deep in the familiar spiral.
And if you’ve never used photoshop it’s this is phase where you zoom in so far you’re editing individual pixels while your actual deadline quietly weeps in the corner.
Then it hit me.
I was at a meetup with a YouTuber who has 16M subscribers (casually flexing, I know), and this dude drops the most obvious truth bomb:
“The best Photoshop is NO Photoshop.”
Wait, what?
No fancy techniques.
No 17-step workflow.
No tutorials to master.
Just take better photos from the start.
The clouds parted. Angels sang. My MacBook actually sighed with relief.
I had two options staring me in the face:
- Option A: Keep polishing this digital turd for another 2-4 hours, turning my sad 4/10 image into a mediocre 6/10
- Option B: Play to my strengths, close the laptop, and use those 2 hours to take better photos that didn’t need editing like life support
The answer was painfully obvious.
I’d been overthinking the solution so hard I couldn’t see the shortcut.
Here’s the thing about overthinking:
It’s not some adorable quirk to share on a first date.
It’s procrastination in a productivity costume, complete with color-coded spreadsheets and a premium Notion template.
It’s the voice that convinces you to drop $2,000 on pro golf clubs when you still swing like you’re swatting mosquitoes.
It’s the rabbit hole that turns “I should work out more” into three hours of researching the perfect routine… only to not have time to the gym.
It’s the director that transforms writing a simple email into a psychological escape room where you analyze every word choice like you’re defusing a bomb made of social judgment.
We all do this.
But let’s call overthinking what it really is: procrastination with better marketing.
And behind every successful person is a system for cutting through mental noise when it matters most.
So in today’s newsletter,
I’m giving you three mental circuit breakers I’ve personally used to stop overthinking in its tracks before it steals another day of your life.
Here’s what’s coming up
- The Frozen Mouse Principle that Melts mental paralysis
- The STATE → STORY → STRATEGY Framework (Game-Changer)
- Why I’m Selling My 1965 Mustang for Better Productivity
- A Challenge for you this week
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Look, I could spend the next 10 paragraphs explaining why overthinking is bad, but you already know that.
You clicked on this because you want solutions.
So let’s get to the three strategies that will help you DELETE your overthinking – things you can literally implement today.
1. Default to Action: The Frozen Mouse Principle
Here’s a 30-second parable that changed my thinking:
Mouse gets dropped in freezing water.
Ice starts forming around him.
He panics and starts thrashing wildly.
His movement generates heat.
The ice melts.
He survives.
That’s it.
That’s the whole story.
The cold, hard truth?
Action, even desperate, sloppy, what-the-hell-am-I-doing action…is what melts fear.
- Not thinking about it.
- Not planning for it.
- Not reading another book about it.
Overthinking thrives in inaction like bacteria thrives in darkness.
Your solution is to default to action.
The next time you’re caught in the ice of overthinking, ask yourself one question:
“What can I actually DO about this right now?”
Then do that thing.
Even if it’s small.
Even if it’s clumsy.
Your first step doesn’t need to be perfect, it just needs to exist.
2. State > Story > Strategy
Ever notice your overthinking is 10x worse on bad days? Genius observation, I know.
But here’s what’s actually happening:
Your physical and mental state is dictating your story (the narrative you’re telling yourself), which then determines your strategy (how you approach problems).
Tony Robbins has been hammering this for decades with good reason.
“Change your state!” isn’t just a catchphrase. It’s a key that unlocks everything else.
Here’s the framework that’s changed my life:
STATE → STORY → STRATEGY
When your energy is tanked (state), your inner dialogue turns toxic (story), which blinds you to solutions that are right in front of you (strategy).
But if you flip that script:
Elevate your state, and suddenly your narrative shifts. Problems that seemed insurmountable now have clear solutions.
The mistake?
Most people slam their heads against the strategy wall while their state is in the gutter.
It’s like trying to start a car with no gas. Just frustration and burned-out mental circuits.
Research backs this up:
Study after study shows just 30 minutes of moderate exercise can significantly reduce anxiety and improve cognitive function.
How do you change your state?
Here are my go-to state changers:
- A 5k walk (I use a walking pad indoors when it’s too hot in Scottsdale)
- Taking a hot shower, jumping in the pool, a Cold plunge, or anything that gets you in water
- Sitting in direct sunlight
- Breathwork – 3 rounds before shooting videos changes everything
- Meditation (even just 10 minutes)
Here’s the breakthrough most overthinking advice misses:
You can’t think your way out of overthinking.
You have to move your way out.
Your body is the gateway to your mind, not the other way around.
3. Clear Your Mental RAM
Ever get that dreaded “Storage Full” notification on your phone?
That’s basically the notification your brain is sending you when you’re overthinking.
Your mind has limited processing capacity.
When cluttered with half-finished tasks, it can’t perform at its peak.
Case in point: My 1965 Mustang. Beautiful classic. Unreliable as hell.
For months, I circled the decision to sell it, finding seventeen new reasons to postpone each time.
Last week, I finally said “fu*k it” and called three dealers. One week later, it was out of my garage and listed for sale.
Something I had postponed for a year, done in 30 minutes of action.
Here’s the truth about decisions: They happen in microseconds.
- You already know when it’s time to leave the job.
- You already know when the relationship is over.
- You already know when you’ve outgrown your bad habit.
The decision isn’t what takes forever. It’s giving yourself permission to act on what you already know.
But every decision you put off is taking up your valuable mental RAM and causing you to overthink, which prevents you from making other decisions, only making this cycle worse.
Which brings us to this week’s challenge for you…
Your Challenge This Week
Try this: If something will take less than 30 minutes, do it now. Not later. NOW.
This isn’t just about productivity, it’s activating your Frozen Mouse, elevating your STATE, and clearing your mental RAM in one decisive move.
Your mind wasn’t designed for storing problems—it was built for solving them.
I’d love to know which one you’re trying first – hit reply and let me know.
See you next saturday,
— CK
